” No amount of guilt can solve the past, and no amount of anxiety can change the future. ” – Anonymous
“Don’t grieve. Anything you lose comes round in another form. ” – Rumi
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Ways to reduce stress stress
Stress is a feeling of emotional or physical tension, it can come from any event or thought that makes you feel frustrated angry or nervous, here are a few ways to reduce stress and risk of stress
Step 1 on stress reduction
Meditation.
-Meditating is to focus on ones mind for a period of time in silence or with the aid of chanting as a religious or spiritual purpose or as a method of relaxation
Meditation can help relieve stress in a number of ways as it helps you connect to your inner strength, it decreases anxiety, it helps you to relax and focus your thoughts to one place thus eliminating the bad ones.
Meditation also helps you to reduce and manage stress it also helps you to reverse the effects of stress, meditation releases emotional turbulence
Forms of meditation that relieve stress.
(1)Body scan meditation
(2)Mantra meditation
(3)Bath meditation.
Number 2 stress reduction
Exercise.
-Exercise is a physical activity that is planned, structured and repetitive for the purpose of conditioning the body.
Exercise helps to relieve stress by increasing your bodys sense of well being and health, it helps you to gain lower blood pressure and it pumps up your endorphins.
Forms of Exercise that relieve stress.
(1) Gardening. (2)Walking. (3) Kickboxing. (4)Yoga (5)Tai Chi. (6) Bicycle riding. (7) Jogging (8) Swimming
Number 3 stress reduction activity
Lighting a candle 🕯️
Lighting a candle helps to sooth our souls, thereby reducing stress and increasing self awareness. Aromatherapy candles can help you to relax, feel calm and energised.
Types of stress relief candles.
(1)Lavender and chamomile.➡️ Helps to relax
(2)Clary sage. ➡️ Lifts mood (3) Orange. 🍊 ➡️reduce stress (4) Lemon 🍋 ➡️improves mood (5)Apple- Controls anxiety. E.t.c
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Never accept defeat
Part two (How to get rid of all your problems)
Greetings to you all,today I added two more things that will help you live a great and wonderful life and how to get rid of all your problems in life
{3}- Be true to yourself
Most of the times you will discover that half of the things we as people do are not actually doing it for ourselves but for others, you know just so we could feel relavant and accepted by the society or the people. We actually have these hundreds of fake friends that are always there when things are good but tend to disappear when the going gets tough. I don’t know why but we always feel the need to please them by doing certain tasks or by acquiring certain thing’s (ie, the trandiest new fashions), we always have to update them and show them that we are living the best life that one can ever live, Sometimes you have to do things or wear things that make you feel inappropriate just so they could give you a thumbs up(👍) and you will feel happy for that moment in time only to go back to the beginning of that cycle all over again.
Well the best advice that I can ever give is that “Always stay original to your true self” no one can ever usurp that right from you and no one can ever force you to change yourself, because it’s not possible only you can ever truly have an impact in how you want to live your life. And only your originality can give you true happiness, if you are happy with who you are you will never feel the need to change your self, but you will be able to love yourself, care for yourself like no one can ever do. (NB – if you are happy about who you are ,you like yourself and are original, chances are high that other people will like you because people like things that are authentic , And only happy people in the world can help spread positivity and happiness.)
{4}- Be content with what you have.
Being sad or unhappy can truly be a problem or challenge in life, mainly due to the fact that we are always hungry for more, we always spend so much of our time mopping over the things that we do not have so much that we end up not realising what wonderful gifts we have and the many things that we are blessed with. We always think that to be happy we have to own certain things like that big house in the most expensive suburb, you know drive that latest car, wear the latest brands and have that supermodel superstar body.
When all of those things are actually material things, things that are not permanent they just come to pass they are not meant to stay. If you think that you have a bad body that is perhaps too thin or too fat know this you are blessed and have have been gifted this body use it wisely and remember that not all of us have two arms and two legs some people are walking on wheel chairs some are bedridden and worse so just be glad that you have a body and the rest can always be fixed, You know you can always exercise to be fit and healthy but you can never exercise and grow a pair of legs, always appreciate yourself and what you have.
I once met someone one who had been told that they would be wheelchair bound for the rest of their lives or could never be able to walk ever again, to my surprise that person was not sad or depressed they were just happy that they had the gift of life and that’s when I started to believe that they was no such thing as disability
You can and you will achieve things if you truly want to. Happy new year
There is no such thing as impossible, impossible is just a word
Always believe in your self, your biggest strength is your ability to dream
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How to get rid of all your problems in life
Living the best life can somehow prove to be a very difficult thing as you are always swamped with things to do so much that you rarely get the time to just breathe and relax.
If it’s not work, then it’s the kids,if not the kids, you are probably stressing over something else. To live the best life without stress, and anxiety you have to be willing to compromise on a lot of things e.g the types of food intake (you can’t be eating fast foods everyday and expect to live a healthy life).
Well here’s a guide from me to you about how to live your best life.
-{1} Do less planning and thinking.
Most of the time when we set out to do specific things we just get so hooked up on planning those things and end up overthinking them so much that we end up leaving them as just plans in our journal, Rather than spending time and thinking what to do when you are free or during a holiday I would advice you to just pick up that suitcase and go on that dream vacation or just pick up that camera and record that first video for your dream you tube channel. You will see the rest will do it’s self, because in most cases we humans forget that we cannot simply plan for life as we are not the ones in charge. Anything can happen to you today or tomorrow so just always make sure that you live your best life without regret. Remember life is full of uncertainties.
-{2} Exercise regularly and eating healthy.
–Exercising helps to de-stress and also helps to keep your body healthy and in shape. You will always find that after exercising you will feel a little more happy and a little more fresher
– Eating healthy has always been a drag to most of us because want we don’t know is that, that on less burger or fried chips actually makes a difference, what we don’t know is that a burger less is a more healthy life and a burger more is always a crisis in your health matters in the near future. It’s always nobody’s fault when you are lying on your death bed having to die early because of an unhealthy eating lifestyle {but it’s always you who is dying and not the guy who actually sells fast foods which are unhealthy}.
If you are skeptical about this or addicted to fast foods, start slowly decrease your daily inputs of fast foods every day or so and then use the compound effect you will see after a few months the results and also go see a doctor if you feel it might be too late
To be continued………….
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Effective communication
I would like to say that I believe that effective communication is the interaction between any individual’s in a manner that they both understand each other
Hence in this part of my blog I have decided to write about how to talk to your child peacefully and effectively when they have done bad or when they have done that thing that really agitates you badly
Steps to follow before confrontation.
Take a deep breath. Inhale and exhale the air slowly, this will help you to calm down and this helps you to clear your mind and relax.
Carefully consider what you are gonna say. Carefully think about how you will be reacting through out the conversation and how you are gonna make him or her realize their mistake or make them realize that they’ve done wrong and need to correct their error, without making them feel like a criminal.
How to call him or her. Call him or her calmly to avoid scaring him or her off, As soon as they come don’t look at them with talking eyes.
How to talk to the child. Calmly tell the child to sit down and ask him to relay the story to you again, try to see the story from his point of view, delay correction and gather more information try to respond to criticism with empathy, don’t shame or ridicule them. Listen to him carefully and don’t bring up past mistakes.
Let them share their opinion. Try to make him or her understand you and why you are disagreeing with him or her, treat the child with respect and ask for the same back
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Simply hobbies that are also lifetime skills
At times you just run out of things to do and you end up getting bored at home because when you are doing nothing times seems to stop moving. Ever noticed how long holidays or weekends are if you are free, Or how boring life can be if you do the same things everyday and you end up getting lost in your own world, Well I got just the thing for you.
Today I got up lazy, brushed my teeth and did everything that I do everyday and I noticed that I have a routine on my life or I’m living a routine thus I decided to try out some new things that I can do to improve my mind and skills so I decided to do a little research on hobbies that I can try out and the results were great and I just decided to write about these hobbies that can change your life.
Hobby number one
(1)Art stuff
If you like drawing, mixing colours and writing you can try out any one of these (Painting, Drawing and Writing ) all of these if mastered correctly can prove to be quite profitable who knows maybe you can prove to be the next Picasso of our generation.
(2)Cooking
You can learn how to make different types of dishes at home. Learning how to cook boosts your confidence, it makes you happy, saves you take away money, increases you knowledge and expertise on food. It can prove to be helpful or an advantage someday.
(3) Learning a new language
Learning a new language can prove to be quite helpful in most cases and is a skill which can also be used to make money e.g you can work as a translator. Learning a new language improves your memory, gives you the ability to multitask and better lestening and communication skills.
(4) Writing
Writing help’s to create a winder imagination it decreases stress,helps you to relax boosts your self esteem increases your communication skills and is quite an admirable skill
(5)learn to play a new musical instrument
Learning to play musical instruments is quite easy if mastered relieves stress, makes you happier, it builds your confidence, makes you patience and is worth it also proven to be a skill if mastered.
(6) Exercise
Exercising is quite healthy, it promotes good health, it improves your mental health and mood, reduce your risk of heat disease, boosts your confidence and helps you to quit smoking.
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What are the things that matter in life
Everytime you are looking at yourself you begin to think that ‘why am I so short,why am I so fat, why am I so thin, why am I so dark or even black, why do I have such huge lips, why do I have such an improper body’.
And you would end up spending most of your time trying to fix your self. Well let me tell you a little something, you can’t fix something that’s not broken. You are perfect just as you are trust me you don’t need any adjustments or improvements you are fine.
A wise man once said to me there is no such thing as a normal person, just because the society in your area does not appreciate thick or short people does not mean that you are abnormal for all we know maybe you could be the only normal person there. Maybe they are all too tall or too short and that leaves you to be the only normal one.
Rather than focusing your energy on something you can’t change, why not focus it on things that really matter like doing some self improvement on your self. Why don’t you take the time you spend on self pity and learn a new hobby or sharpen your skills, You know that, that extra forty five minutes a day reading a book won’t kill anyone.
If you learn to love your self and appreciate yourself for who you are then you are most likely to attract positive energy in your life. You will see quite an improvement in your work life, relationships and mostly your mind will be at ease.
But if you spend most of your time pitying yourself. Or always worried then you are most likely not going to succeed in everything you do because you would be allowing bad energy to flow into your life. You will see things happenings just the way you predicted they would turn out only because if your mind starts thinking that something bad will befall you and you get really invested on that then bad things are bound to take place.
Similarly if you think you are ugly, irregular, imperfect, abnormal or even disabled then other people will also start to view you in that manner and your worst fears will confirmed and immediately the depression door will open.
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How to pick yourself up in hard times, wipe the dust and start again
Hie my name is mercy and I am young woman who is living in sub Saharan Africa
I started this blog with a lot of doubt and fear because I thought that no one would ever listen to me,since I have always been a quite and shy person. As a young child I used to suffer from depression as I thought that my physical appearance and strength defined who I was in life. I always thought that being me or being myself was the worst thing that could have ever happened to me in my life. But when God entered my life and changed me permanently I discovered that being yourself was the best thing that one could ever have and that as long as you have the gift of life you are blessed and have the best thing one could ever ask for
In this blog we will be talking about struggles and ordeals that people encounter in life and how to go about through them and how to become the best self you can ever be
Mmeme Mbambo 